Militza and I met through a brief chat session on Catholic Mingle.
Initially, she turned me down. Absolutely gave me the ultimate no-no. She looked at my profile, saw that I had red hair and said, "See ya." Only, her response to decline was a lot more polite. Her decline message came back to me as she was "busy at the time." She tells me now she was trying to be polite, but that she
really didn't care for guys with red, or in my case, auburn hair. Catholic Mingle's site didn't provide an option for my exact hair color, at least not that I can remember when I initially became a lifetime member. Militza says it's almost lighter than strawberry blonde. Either way, it almost cost me the girl of my dreams.
That was when I tried to IM her while we were both online at the same time. After waiting a while following her ultimate shut-down to accept my invitation to start up a conversation, I asked her again, my instincts telling me she had "enough time" to finish what she was doing. This time she accepted.
We hit it off right from the beginning. One of the first things she said to me was she knew if she ever got married she would never get a divorce. When she told me that, I knew Militza was worth pursuing. I knew she was a keeper. I had been saying those exact sentiments to different girls, and never got the same
response back. Or at least the response I was looking for. This time, I didn't have to do the work. Militza did it all for me, and pretty quickly.
We were talking on the phone that night. Initially, when I asked her for her phone number, she said, "I have two. One with a tone and one without." I'm briefly scratching my head, although I knew there was one good phone and one bad. Yeah, I want the one with
a tone, I told her. What she was meaning to tell me was that one worked and one didn't. My thoughts were, yeah, I want you to hear what I'm saying.
So that night we talked until about 2:30 in the
morning. Well, 2:30 a.m. for her -- she lives in
Bethlehem, PA. I lived in Phoenix.
Needless to say, after a couple flights from Phoenix to Philadelphia, which is about an hour away from Bethlehem, some coaxing from her large Puerto Rican family and the right timing, I moved here, where we are now engaged. She flew out to Phoenix to drive back across the country with me, and we made a stop in the Grand Canyon, where we got engaged on Aug. 18, my grandpa's birthday. I was named after my grandpa,
James Francis. I didn't plan it that way
intentionally. It just sort of worked out. We later asked her parents for permission -- something she "politely" insisted, and after staying with her family for about a month while living here, I proposed to her on her 34th birthday, Sept. 20, 2006, following long
day, which included a short trip to Atlantic City.
Already, we've been to Baltimore, New York City,
northern Virginia and Atlantic City together. We've traveled across the country from Arizona through New Mexico, the panhandle in Texas, Oklahoma City and Tulsa into Missouri. At the border of Oklahoma-Missouri, my new car ran out of gas after 1 a.m. and we had to sit for a little over an hour, waiting for roadside assistance. It was a lesson in patience, but the long wait also taught me not to test my tank. We had a great time in St. Louis and then drove up into the metro Detroit area in Michigan, where she met my family. They all love her very much.
We have seen many places together, but so far, the Grand Canyon is very special for obvious reasons. A few of the photos of us were taken in the Grand Canyon.
We are planning a May wedding and beginning our future together now. Living separately, of course.
Hey, we're Catholic.
Militza and I both want to thank Catholic Mingle for making this connection possible.
We'll never forget Catholic Mingle ...
mccurdy & tweetie72
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